I have mentioned how my family lost my cousin, Michael, last year but I've never talked about his great girlfriend, Darcey. Michael and Darcey had been together for a few years and shared their lovely home with a couple of cute basset hounds. Darcey, like all of us who loved him, was devastated by Michael's loss but with the help of her family and friends found a way to carry on. She and Michael adored her 3 year old niece, Hanna. Michael doted on Hanna, and loved to be silly with her. On top of all the other baggage associated with grieving, Darcey was worried about how she would explain Michael's absence to Hanna. She ended up telling her that Michael missed his mom so much that he went to be with her. Hanna accepted this and rarely asked about Michael again. Although this may have bothered Darcey, she let it go and didn't bring Michael to her attention again. Flash forward to a few weeks ago, when Darcey is giving Hanna, who is now 5, a bath. Here is a rough transcript of their conversation:
H: Where is your dad?
D: My dad? Papa is my dad, and he is outside.
H: No…what’s his name…Mike.
D: Uncle Mike?
H: Yeah…where is he?
D: He went to go live with his mom…
H: Is he ever coming back?
D: No…he missed and loved her so much he had to go live with her.
H: Where does she live?
D: Farrr farrr away
H: Do you ever talk to him?
D: I talk to uncle Mike all the time…he says he loves you soooo much.
H: He loves me?!?!
D: Yes he does…and always will
Darcey knows that I believe that our loved ones look for ways to contact us so she contacted me to see what I thought. I know that children can be more open to seeing spirits than adults so I told her that I thought maybe Michael had appeared to her in a dream. Perhaps he did this to let Darcey know he was watching over them both. I offered to do an angel card reading on it to see if it would give any clarification. I can tell you that the cards confirmed that there was a message from Michael, but don't want to go into too many details because it was a private reading. But the main themes of the cards really speak to anyone who is grieving a loss and/or having a hard time moving on. So, here are some of the messages that the cards gave Darcey but ended up helping me as well. I hope some of you reading this will be able to benefit from it too.
Card 1- Take back your power. Use your intention to manifest your blessings in your life. Are you struggling with a decision to move forward on some dream you have? If so, this card is saying to have no fear. You have everything you need to make this dream come true. Don’t consider yourself a victim because you are a strong and spiritual being.
Card 2- Divine Order- Everything is how it needs to be right now. Look beyond the illusion and see the underlying order. A win-win situation is at hand. Again, if there is a dream that you have been hesitating about, don’t! Now you have two cards telling you that you will be successful. Keep your spirits high through prayer and positive affirmations. Above all, make sure you speak positive statements only especially when talking about this dream/plan you have in mind.
Card 3- Nurture- This card advises you find ways to nurture your inner child. Take time to play, laugh and to be silly! Spend time with the young because spending time with a younger person will nurture both of you.
Card 2 really spoke to me because frankly I have been less than pleased with how my personal life has been going this summer. Adoption seemed as far away as ever and I'm still dealing with being separated from someone I care for. The control freak in me has fought against these disappointments by not accepting the situations. I'm sure you have heard the expression that when one door closes, another opens. Well picture me slamming myself over and over against that first door in order to make it open. In both cases, all that happened was that my heart became battered and bruised. The zen message of the Divine Order card really took me aback. I thought about how I was angry with God with how things have been going in my personal life, despite my many prayers and actions. The reminder that I'm not in charge and that life is meant to be lived and not controlled was a much needed one. Maybe things didn't work with China because my child is not there. Maybe he is somewhere else in the world. Maybe the man I love has a different destiny and his own set of lessons to learn which would contradict where my path is leading me. He is important to me, and I will always love him but by letting go I'm allowing the Universe to bring the best to both of us whether that means being reunited or not.
Instead of hurting, these thoughts actually give me some comfort and some hope for the future. In the end, I felt like the message of these cards was not just for Darcey and me but for all the people who miss and love Michael. Because that really is who Michael was: a man of few words but who always showed his love for his family through actions. It would be just like him to whisper these messages to a five year old and leave it to her to bring our attention to it. So, now I'm going to ask all of you to help me put these messages into action. I am not giving up on adoption and am already on another track to become a mother. I'm asking those of you that pray to say a prayer for me to help keep me strong and positive. And another thing you can do is to follow the advice of these cards: Be strong and live your intentions! Let go of how you think your life "should" look and let the Universe spin its magic. And finally have fun with your inner child. Celebrate life and have fun with the young and old alike who share your journey. Think of what a wonderful world it would be if we all lived this way!
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